My old aunt (never married) did not make a will and see no reason to do so. It is a house Housing Association and has no property to her and has his pension with little or no savings. She said she had nothing worth writing a will for his furniture is worth nothing (true), no antiques, rien.J I tried to explain that it is much easier for those who remain, if she has a will and as she has no children or brothers or sisters is totally against. Despite numerous conversations where I told him that I (at my tender age of 54) have made my will and I am still alive, he n ‘is not a sign to prepare for death or discuss the great faucheuse.Comment can I explain that to her niece (she has other nephews and 2 that she has no contact with) I am not necessarily his family as I am not the eldest of them but she seems to think ‘ll be OK for me to manage all legal aspects and the elimination of its business with little reflection on whether and how I could do without saying, as in a will, or m & # XEA; me if I’m ready to take conscience.Seulement advice seriously please.
she may have something valued to the family and writing a will can stop the cause of fighting within the family, tell her to write a will as they can be very important regardless of the amount of money or property she may or may not own, she should make a will due to family air looms. I fa will is not written then these will go through a series of stages which lead to be given to the state…
Even when someone with no assets dies, there are legalities such as arranging the funeral, closing her bank acc, writing to the DWP. Just tell her that you may have to wait a few years to do this cos you would have to wait for probate (you wouldnt really cos it is straightforward) but it is so much easier for you to deal with if you are an executor of a will. Straightforward. Just ask her does she want to leave you all that hassel?
I haven’t made a will,my late husband hadn’t albeit he was diagnosed with terminal cancer..If there are no grabbing relatives nor riches,property etc. I suggest you leave her alone to do it her way…………
off course this is a difficult one
What I did with an elderly relative was told them ,in a sensitive way
that a Will makes sure everything goes smoothly and that nobody who isn’t entitled to anything.-gets anything
She will probably have a back account, and maybe insurance
so if you are named as executor it will make things like arranging the funeral and tying up her personal things much easier
if she doesn’t make a will, then it means any niece/nephew can make a claim on any monies or personal effects,and to your Aunt,that isn’t fair
A will not only benefits those who care for her, makes the arrangements much easier for maybe yourself, but it also excludes those who don’t care for her much
My father appointed my sister to take charge of proceedings when he died including the funeral and kind of wake etc. He didn’t include anything in it about going through stuff that he left in the house so my two sisters just went and took stuff that didn’t really belong to them as the house had been made mine at an earlier date so it would have been better if he had included these things in it. The worthless stuff of course was my responsibility as I owned the house and it cost 1000 euro to hire Skipp’s and two guys clear stuff. A will could’v sorted all this out.
Your so right, it is far better for those left behind.
Tell her it’s not a matter of valuables, but a small attempt to keeping the peace and have those who loved her get certain things to remember her by and make sure she has everything including the ceremony’s carried out to her wishes. Tell her that many times ppl don’t feel they “need” or want anything until reality strikes and sentiment takes over. Then give her an example if there’s anything you want such as a picture, clock, table, anything sentimental.
Tell her it is hard enough to say goodbye to someone you deeply care about and at such a sad time, to have to judge who gets what and worse, to have to choose if two ppl want the same item to remember her by.
My aunt, at her sisters wake wore and brought all her rings, she took all the nieces aside near the end and asked us one at a time to choose a ring we liked to inherit after she had passed.
She was very well off and had one daughter who inherited all and the wedding rings, but we all were left one by her, they weren’t super expensive or cheap either, but you know the value of sentiments and memory go so much higher than cash ever could, so like she planned there were no arguments, all knew what was who’s and no bitterness came of it.